Your Child’s Behavior is a Foreign Language: Become a Behavior Detective and Translate It! (Topic: I don’t want to go to school)

By Ava Parnass, Author, Songwriter and Child Psychotherapist

This week’s topic: “I don’t want to go to school”

[Read the previous posts: Become a Behavior Detective and Bossy]


Five conversation starters:

1. “Your behavior of not wanting to go to school is telling me you have something on your mind!”

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2. “I know it’s hard  to talk about so let’s play with your toys now. They can help us figure out what’s in our hearts.”

3. “Sometimes kids don’t want to go to school because they are scared the teachers voice is too loud or they yell a lot. Did that happen to you?”

[Related reading: My child cries every day about being dropped at school. What can I do?]

4. “Sometimes kids don’t want to go to school because they miss their grown-ups and feel like they didn’t have enough time together. Missing is a hard feeling.”

5. “Let’s have a quick dance and cuddle before you go to school – it will make us feel better! Then we can spend more time together when you get home and play and have fun!”

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The book “Listen To Me Please” has conversation starters we can use to help us put our behavior into feelings words.

A new parenting book is coming soon: Time-In not Time-Out:




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